With our friends, especially girls, we’re constantly giving one another advice. “You should do this.” “If I were you, I’d do this.” For many of us, giving advice comes easily. Sometimes we give out advice when our friends don’t even want it. We’re ready to help our friends make the right decisions, and hoping we help them avoid making the wrong ones.
I can’t speak for others, but for myself, I have realized that while I can give my friends advice without thinking, I don’t always take my own advice. Does this mean I don’t agree with the advice I give my friends? I don’t think that’s the case. I believe that I don’t take my own advice because I want my friends to be happy, and it’s easier to see what would make them happy. While I’m in a situation, it can be like living in a fog: I know I’m unhappy, but cannot see what would help me through the fog.
It’s frustrating when friends give unwanted advice, but they can see your unhappiness and may know what the solution is more easily than you can while you’re emotionally invested in a situation. Sure, you may feel like they don’t understand how you’re feeling, but sometimes third parties can see the solution better than the parties involved.
My advice is often to “do what makes you happy.” When I’m unhappy, do I take this advice? Not all the time. It’s something easier said than done. It sounds simple on the surface, but when you’re wrapped up in a situation, you may not know right aways what will make you happy. It can take some soul searching to discover what solution would make your life better.
I know that giving advice is easier than taking it, but I feel like I want to strive to take the advice I give to other people. I want to make myself happy in the way that I want others around me to be happy, too. I think it’s time I start taking my own advice. 🙂